Trends and traditions..

Just over 2 months to go!!

Here are some things that I have learnt and discovered so far about weddings..and have been questioned about or questioned

1. Pre-wedding photos..
Most of the non-Asian people I’ve spoken to have no idea what they are and what they are for. I too have questioned about that. So far the best explanation is that Asian weddings don’t normally have the long hours in between the ceremony and reception to take photos so they do it beforehand. Fair enough I think! For me, I’ve been lucky enough to have two pre-wedding photo shoots done. One lot done in China and one here. So what do you think?

2. The 1 million dress changes..
If you have been to an Asian wedding, you would have noticed that the bride changes into a lot of different dresses all in the one night. Until today, I thought it was an Asian thing but after watching Rachel Ray, it seems like the trend is picking up in America too! I am still looking for another dress but I have also bought the traditional Chinese “Qi Pao” (dress).

3. To gift or not to gift..
So, this came up when we had to do our invites. What do we write on it? We don’t want to be rude but we also have a house that we’ve inherited or ‘adopted’ as one of my friends would say, a bunch of wedding gifts from other people’s weddings. I decided to google search for nice wording and realised that it is such a heated topic! You pretty much have people on two camps. Yes it’s rude to not accept gifts and yes it’s rude to ask for gifts i.e a wedding registry.  Gifting of money is another debate – should we should we not? Again from the people I’ve spoken to, some think it’s ok and some not. The way we’ve approached it is to not ask for any – and if people do ask we tell them we prefer cash unless they really want to give us a gift, then we will tell them our limited list of gifts.. which we are very grateful for (I have just received my first wedding gift!)  🙂

4. Most importantly..

It sounds selfish but the wedding is yours. I think that has been the best advice and reminder that I have been given. People have so many different opinions but amongst traditions and trends, you do need to choose something that reflects you and your partner. We have gone for the “simple” and relaxed wedding (or I hope it will be!)  – as little stress as possible. Thankfully, we can get rid of a lot of traditions..especially some of the Chinese ones. It’s not that it’s bad or anything, but I can’t imagine myself waking up at 5am in the morning to get my make-up and hair done in order to play games (that involves that boys paying the girls a lot of money to get to the bride) for a few hours. I would be exhausted by the time the ceremony starts. Not to mention everyone else who would be involved. If you don’t talk to your partner about what both of you want, you would pretty much go crazy reading all the blogs and getting advice from everyone. 🙂



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